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James, imploring their future husbands to "wait for me too, wait for me as I wait for you." It's understandable that you would feel disappointed with your fiancé, and possibly even with God, that the one you waited for wasn't so patient.
When a young believer makes a chastity vow, the often unspoken part of the bargain is an expectation that God will return that faithfulness with a spouse who has been similarly chaste. With such high rates of premarital sexual activity, the math just doesn't work out for all the virgins to marry virgins.
So far the advice I've given applies broadly to men and women who find themselves in similar situations. You said you "feel" your boyfriend is God's intended for you.
Though you may have used that word casually — when what you really meant to say was you "believe" it to be so based on lots of reliable evidence — I want to encourage you to be very intentional about what you base this conviction on.
If the knowledge of past sexual sin is more than you can forgive and forget, then it's your prerogative to graciously break off the relationship — even if that means canceling a wedding — and waiting for someone else and another chance at marrying a virgin.
Loyalty is what is a sideeffect or after effect of love. No girl knows that the guy she is with is not going to be the one that she will not get married too.
Thankfully it's not the presence of past sin that is a deal-breaker, but how it was and is being dealt with. As I see it, you have two options, the first of which probably flashed through your mind, if only for an instant.
You can take this admission as a sign that he's not the right one after all.
I understand that he is forgiven and that this sin is no different from any other sin, but I feel betrayed by something he did before we even knew each other. Not surprising given the high rates of self-reported pre-marital sexual activity.
If you have any advice I would really love to hear it! Whatever the degree of past sexual sin, learning that your beloved once treated someone else as intimately as you want to be treated — and this outside the bounds of marriage — is a blow.