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Since I’ve been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend Doug for nearly two years now, Tinder has never been necessary to me.
Still, I’ve always found it curious how the app has the tagline “It’s How People Meet,” so different from other dating apps, which put the focus on love and connection and building relationships.
How would men on Tinder treat someone who told them upfront she had a boyfriend?
How would they treat a girl who asked to be left alone?
This is a perfect example of the way girls get treated almost anywhere on the internet – no matter what we say, guys expect us to owe them conversation. And then, he got two messages from sex workers using the platform to find clients. I suppose just that Tinder really isn’t a place to connect and make new friends. But the way Tinder markets itself as a space for everyone to meet new people made us think that hey, maybe we both won’t get people offering to have sex with us since we said we weren’t interested.
Nobody ever messaged Doug or me saying anything along the lines of “Hey, I read your profile, respect that you are in a relationship and would love to hand out and hear more with you in a friendship way! Friendship never was brought up with any of his or my matches. Not the case – I’d say nine times out of ten, the people offering/asking for sex did not even glance at anything further than our pictures.
It totally makes sense – more options, even if they’re not all 100% what you want, equal more hookup opportunities for guys, while for girls, fewer matches mean fewer creeps texting you at 2 a.m. It’s not a super significant number – and really, I had almost three times as many matches, which is totally what should have happened according to those Times statistics – but it gets bad when you look at the messages. I don’t want to start our look through the messages on a totally negative note.
In order to get more results, and maybe a message for Doug, we kept our profiles going for a month, each day swiping right on another 20 people. Seriously, #notallmen (rolling my eyes, you can too) on Tinder were terrible to me. Oh, and of course, there are men that don’t read your profile and just want pictures of your tits. From the very first message, guys I am hoping did not read my profile invited me over to chill out, watch a movie and let them completely dominate me.
I’m a firm believer that probably 90% of the time, girls do not owe guys shit. There were guys, though, that took my being on Tinder yet not available to them very personally. I feel like I didn’t do enough damage to you to cause you to say that. He had one girl say she read his profile and was curious what my research was about – totally acknowledging I existed!Just Looking He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen.He’s just not ready to involve himself in real-time dating with people he may connect with online.It made him feel a little bad, I think, seeing that if we ever broke up and had to use this app for real, I’d get way more immediate action than he could expect.I’m convinced this has way less to do with a disparity in our levels of attractiveness than the fact that, as I later found out, men have a tendency to swipe right three times more than women. More than 40% of my matches messaged me despite my asking them not to, while only 6% of Doug’s matches reached out to him.