Genderqueer online dating
Sleidi said that she is "very gay," and some of her transgender friends are uncomfortable using OKCupid.
From the beginning, she knew it was important to allow people to identify as queer and transgender in their profiles.
“Thurst pretty much came out of a frustrated conversation with friends, joking about how horrible OKCupid was, for queer folks in general but especially for women and trans folks,” Thurst Co-Founder Morgen Bromell told me.
“We were talking about our various experiences on Tinder and realizing there wasn’t actually a space to exist and feel completely comfortable, and safe to interact with people and try to date at all.” Earlier this year, trans people on Tinder reported that they were getting banned from using the app because of their transgender identity.
Most people who meet Colleen don’t know she’s transgender.
Typically, she discloses after she's gotten to know someone.
Soon after Colleen made a profile on OKCupid she agreed to a date—just to test out the site.
She and the guy hadn't had much communication, and she assumed he was mostly interested in hooking up. ” This doesn't happen often, Colleen said, but when it does she tries to play it cool.
“Everyone is welcome on Tinder,” a Tinder spokesperson told Business Insider in June. If we find that a user has been wrongfully banned, then we unban their account.
This has the potential to make online dating more thorough and more fruitful, but safety and acceptance for trans people who date online may take more than an algorithm.
As La Mon noted, it all comes down to “the age-old question of when you disclose” your transgender identity.
But not every transgender person wants to be this open.
For those who don’t disclose their trans identity online, safety and rejection are big concerns.