Dating a guy not yet divorced
Today’s quotes came from the following letters Wise Readers generously shared privately and gave permission to re-print: (Letters were edited for length, and some details were changed to protect anonymity.) From a man: …. The most difficult part is deciding whether or not to tell potential dates about my “I’m almost officially divorced” status. I met this really great guy about 6 months after my separation.
We dated for a couple months before she told me she was married but didn’t wear a ring because she felt divorce was imminent. From a woman: I [married young and am now separated at age 27]. I mean, I don’t think I need to tell a man when he just asks for my number that I am in the process of being divorced. At first I wasn’t too interested in him but I went on a date anyways and simply told him that I was divorced. I knew that when I said “I’m divorced” he thought that it was official…
I felt really crappy although all my friends told me it was no big deal. We ended things about 6 weeks later because I found that I simply wasn’t ready to date someone exclusively. My divorce should be finalized within the next upcoming months. There are just so many variables that can make it complicated.
I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Many studies confirm that isolation doesn’t just make us miserable, it can literally make us ill.Well, this relationship flourished and we started dating exclusively. I felt that if I told him that truth he would be angry at me for not telling him sooner and not trust me….” Aaaand then, there are the folks who use separation as a testing ground for the supposedly-deceased marriage.Consciously or not, these people are using you as a jealousy-inducer—a way to renew their marriage bonds and reinvigorate their spouse’s affections by showcasing how desirable they are to others: “….But still, it’s misleading: “I knew that when I said “I’m divorced” he thought that it was official…I just didn’t want to get into the whole “I’m in the process” conversation.